Sex, Contraception and Abortion ... In the Church
A couple of weeks ago Christianity Today featured two articles about the reality of sexually active young adults who are a part of the church. It's been well documented that 4 out of 5 adults ages 18-29 have had sex.
With the number being this high, it's no surprise to see the number of unplanned or unwanted pregnancies in the church also on the increase. Of those pregnancies 1 out of 3 end in abortion.
In light of this a new conversation has begun asking whether or not churches should, not only affirm, but "advocate contraception" for their sexually active singles. You may immediately think, "Of course not!" or "Absolutely they should!" or you may be aghast that this question is even being taken seriously.
Whatever your response or opinion, we must always seek to listen, think and discuss these pressing issues that we continue to face in our world today.
Matthew Anderson wrote the first article titled, "Why Churches Shouldn't Push Contraceptives to Their Singles." He believes that "reducing abortion is a noble and urgent goal." And adds "This is the wrong way to do it." + Continue Reading
Jenell Paris wrote the second article titled, "Both Chastity and Contraception: A Sacred Compormise" She believes that "Churches discussing contraception with singles isn't about giving up. It's about being in a relationship with them." + Continue Reading
Some questions to provoke thought:
While some advocate chastity, it has not worked, (I remind you 4 out of 5 singles are having sex) should we keep promoting it or is that "old fashioned?" If we do advocate chastity how might our message and ethos change?
Some feel "they're going to do it anyway." Maybe they are right, but does that mean we advocate contraception? Is it possible that educating about contraception could be viewed as endorsing sex before marriage?
How can those who are a part of the church address all of this in a loving, grace-filled way so that, rather than people hide their sexually active lives, they are free to speak about it - even admit to unwanted pregnancies? Has the Church preached morality and shame so much that we've driven many from being able to speak about it?